Steve Jobs said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
We connect our dots through the choices we make or if we go with default and don’t make a choice. Bear in mind, regardless whether we don’t know our self well enough to make a choice, we don’t trust our self to make our choice or we deny our inner self and won’t make our choice. We will likely regret it later.
Everything being equal, people with a firm sense of who they are, what they want, what interests them and are closely familiar with their passions are likely to have strong personal boundaries and an inner compass to guide them. They may make choices to please others but they’re aware of why that’s their choice.
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What’s the key to making our choices and living the life we wish for instead of the one that someone else dreamed for us?
One way is simply asking our self – If I had died yesterday, and was looking back at my life, would I still have made the choice to be here, doing (whatever it is I do)? Does my job, career or profession satisfy my passion for living or am I doing this to satisfy someone else?
I had a friend who worked all the time. I assumed he loved his job; after all he was working all the time. He was living a high maintenance lifestyle (or his family was, he was always at work). When we met, he was with his 4th wife and he complained of being unhappy because he hardly saw his family and his wife was frequently complaining of being lonely and unhappy because he was always at work.
I asked him what was it about his job that he loved it enough to be there instead of with his family. He looked shocked and said he hated his job. Then he asked me if I understood how much it cost to pay child support (for his previous families) and keeping his current family in the lifestyle he wanted for them.
Not only had my friend trapped himself in a career that didn’t bring him happiness, he was losing out on the happiness he himself longed for at home with his family. It was sad. It didn’t end well for him or his families. He had lived his life connecting dots that he wanted for others while forgetting his own dots and also never asking the others who were important to him – what dots mattered to them?
What can we learn from this?
- First and foremost – make the best choice we can in the moment,
- Then, if it turns out to not have been the best choice with what we now know, change it.
- Now, find and follow your passion. Before we came here we were given a gift to develop through living it and give that to the Universe. Living our gift is like children playing a game: We develop more energy than it takes and it seems effortless because – we’re inflow!
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Steve Jobs also said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”